Người trí dù khoảnh khắc kề cận bậc hiền minh, cũng hiểu ngay lý pháp, như lưỡi nếm vị canh.Kinh Pháp Cú - Kệ số 65
Cỏ làm hại ruộng vườn, sân làm hại người đời. Bố thí người ly sân, do vậy được quả lớn.Kinh Pháp Cú (Kệ số 357)
Những khách hàng khó tính nhất là người dạy cho bạn nhiều điều nhất. (Your most unhappy customers are your greatest source of learning.)Bill Gates
Điều bất hạnh nhất đối với một con người không phải là khi không có trong tay tiền bạc, của cải, mà chính là khi cảm thấy mình không có ai để yêu thương.Tủ sách Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn
Người ta thuận theo sự mong ước tầm thường, cầu lấy danh tiếng. Khi được danh tiếng thì thân không còn nữa.Kinh Bốn mươi hai chương
Không có ai là vô dụng trong thế giới này khi làm nhẹ bớt đi gánh nặng của người khác. (No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. )Charles Dickens
Bạn có thể trì hoãn, nhưng thời gian thì không. (You may delay, but time will not.)Benjamin Franklin
Người ta vì ái dục sinh ra lo nghĩ; vì lo nghĩ sinh ra sợ sệt. Nếu lìa khỏi ái dục thì còn chi phải lo, còn chi phải sợ?Kinh Bốn mươi hai chương
Mục đích của đời sống là khám phá tài năng của bạn, công việc của một đời là phát triển tài năng, và ý nghĩa của cuộc đời là cống hiến tài năng ấy. (The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it. The meaning of life is to give your gift away.)David S. Viscott
Không trên trời, giữa biển, không lánh vào động núi, không chỗ nào trên đời, trốn được quả ác nghiệp.Kinh Pháp cú (Kệ số 127)

Trang chủ »» Danh mục »» SÁCH TẠP BÚT - TRUYỆN KÝ »» none »» Dalai Lama: 5 things to keep in mind for the next four years »»

none
»» Dalai Lama: 5 things to keep in mind for the next four years

(Lượt xem: 5.844)
Xem trong Thư phòng    Xem định dạng khác    Xem Mục lục  Vietnamese || Đối chiếu song ngữ


       

Văn học Phật giáo - Năm điều giúp bạn luôn luôn hạnh phúc

Font chữ:

(CNN)The Dalai Lama has some advice for anyone who is looking for happiness, no matter what their circumstances.

The Nobel Peace Prize-winning spiritual and political leader of the Tibetan people in exile, spoke about the incoming administration in an interview with CNN's chief medical correspondent, Dr. Sanjay Gupta.

The "president, of course, (is a) very important individual, but basically I (am) always telling (people), the world belongs to humanity," said the Dalai Lama during the Emory-Tibet symposium of Scholars and Scientists held at the Drepung Monastic University in India in December. "Each nation belongs to the people," he said.

In other words, take comfort in the fact that our country is not run by a lone individual, albeit one that is incredibly powerful.
"America, I consider the leading nation of the free world," His Holiness said.

In an earlier interview he said he plans to meet with President-elect Trump after his inauguration and added that once in power, all presidents are forced to work with "reality," and "so I have no worries."

America will always keep an "emphasis on liberty, democracy, rule of law," he said, and "the people elected now have the responsibility" to work together and will have to use "team work," since "America is a democracy and the power is divided."

If, however, someone's confidence in the country's checks and balances is still failing them, His Holiness has some additional advice to help you stay happy, no matter what happens in the world around you.



You do you

First step, work on compassion and start by developing it for yourself.
"Mainly," he said, feeling happy is largely about "your own mental attitude."
If you remain someone who is "honest, truthful," about how you feel, you can find happiness "no matter what (the) surrounding situation."

His Holiness is talking, in part, about the Buddhist concept of self-compassion. He believes we'd all be happier people if we learned more about our own selves and embraced who we are, flaws and all.

When you have compassion for someone, typically that means you are recognizing and validating someone's pain.

Psychologists have shown when you do that, you automatically develop feelings of kindness and caring for that person. You develop concern for their general well-being.
Self-compassion, then, is when you are kind, rather than critical, toward yourself, even when you mess up or when you are in some form of emotional pain.
Don't confuse this with self-pity, when you dwell on that pain. Instead, it's when "in instances of pain or failure, rather than being harshly self-critical; perceiving one's experiences as part of the larger human experience rather than seeing them as isolating; and holding painful thoughts and feelings in mindful awareness rather than over-identifying with them," writes scholar Kristin Neff in Self-Compassion and Pscyhological Well-Being.
Neff is an associate professor at the University of Texas at Austin's department of educational psychology and an expert on self-compassion.
"Most people have much more compassion for others than themselves," Neff said.
If you can develop a compassion toward yourself, it is easier to feel compassion toward others "and is much more sustainable," Neff said.
And the Dalai Lama believes that with less self-criticism, your "health will be much better." Many studies back that up.

Take time to think

It's a lot easier to feel compassion if you take the time to reflect on what you're experiencing. The Dalai Lama, for instance, gets up at 3am to meditate five hours a day.
You probably don't have that much time, but even 10 minutes of meditation has been shown to help your thought process. Meditation can physically change the parts of the brain that help you better handle stress and increase your feelings of empathy, studies show.
Longer meditation sessions, even 20 minutes, can improve your mood, your attention span and memory.

Thinking more deeply, you start to realize, His Holiness said, that "nothing exists as (it) appears."
Take the time to put your feelings in context, he said, "then the very basis of these negative emotions becomes thinner, thinner, thinner."

Anger be gone

If you do feel angry about the election, or any other circumstance, don't let it dominate your thoughts. Constant anger can lead to depression, insomnia, overeating, heart problems, strokes and early death, studies show.

"Constant anger is very bad for our health," His Holiness said. "I try to keep compassion" constantly in mind and then stay "surrounded by (other) compassionate people" that can reduce your anger. Do that and your health will be "much better."
A lot of negative thought is rooted in perception, studies show, but that doesn't have to mean you become a Pollyanna about negative experiences. "If a glass is half full, you can't pretend it's full," Neff said. "If you can think about wrapping your suffering and anger in a kind of care and compassion and concern, it can activate the reward center of the brain."
Working with Tibetan teachers over the years, she said, she has been impressed that despite their difficult circumstances of having to flee their country and live as refugees, as the Dalai Lama has since 1959, many people seem to be happy. "It is not like they deny their suffering, they are open to it, but they hold those feelings with love and compassion," she said.

Help others

Another key to happiness, His Holiness suggests, is to "try to be of some service to others." If you can help others, then "no matter what (the) surrounding situation, you can keep (up your) self-confidence and happiness."

Service can come in the form of volunteering, like at a soup kitchen, or on a candidate's campaign, but it can also be simpler, like being a good listener when people are upset.

Volunteers feel more socially connected, they're less lonely, and suffer from depression less, studies show. Volunteering creates physical benefits too: Regular volunteers are less likely to develop high blood pressure and live longer, some studies show.

Simple acts like being a good listener can also reduce your own feelings of stress and improve your feelings of well-being, other studies show.

Act like a kid

Finally, be playful and childlike. Children, the Dalai Lama said are "very honest" and often accept people without judgment.

"They don't care what's their religion, what's their nationality, they don't care what sort of family background" they have, he said. "Basic human nature is compassionate."

While competition and materialism can encourage those feelings to go "dormant," he said, playfulness can bring those feelings back.

His Holiness is constantly laughing and he's playful even when he speaks about such serious subjects.

Studies back up his advice, showing that adults who are playful have more positive relationships and better life satisfaction. They also tend to be healthier and experience less anxiety.

Considering this advice could make a real difference to how you experience the next few years.

"I will always feel there is real hope we can do something. So no matter (what the) difficult circumstances, it is really worthwhile," the Dalai Lama said.

"Make (an) effort (and) once you committed effort, even small effort results will come," the Dalai Lama said. "You get tremendous sort of satisfaction and then feel happy."

    « Xem chương trước «      « Sách này có 1178 chương »       » Xem chương tiếp theo »
» Tải file Word về máy » - In chương sách này

_______________

MUA THỈNH KINH SÁCH PHẬT HỌC

DO NXB LIÊN PHẬT HỘI PHÁT HÀNH




Quy Sơn cảnh sách văn


Cảm tạ xứ Đức


Các vị đại sư tái sinh Tây Tạng


An Sĩ toàn thư - Khuyên người bỏ sự giết hại

Mua sách qua Amazon sẽ được gửi đến tận nhà - trên toàn nước Mỹ, Canada, Âu châu và Úc châu.

XEM TRANG GIỚI THIỆU.






DONATION

Quý vị đang truy cập từ IP 3.237.2.4 và chưa ghi danh hoặc đăng nhập trên máy tính này. Nếu là thành viên, quý vị chỉ cần đăng nhập một lần duy nhất trên thiết bị truy cập, bằng email và mật khẩu đã chọn.
Chúng tôi khuyến khích việc ghi danh thành viên ,để thuận tiện trong việc chia sẻ thông tin, chia sẻ kinh nghiệm sống giữa các thành viên, đồng thời quý vị cũng sẽ nhận được sự hỗ trợ kỹ thuật từ Ban Quản Trị trong quá trình sử dụng website này.
Việc ghi danh là hoàn toàn miễn phí và tự nguyện.

Ghi danh hoặc đăng nhập

Thành viên đang online:
Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Khoanguyen7654 Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Vạn Phúc Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn QuangDuc Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn William Thanhha Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn caokiem Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Huệ Trí 1975 Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Minh Hữu Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Khánh Nga Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn DRAGONMAN Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn maithanh151 Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Quảng Khang Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Tam Thien Tam Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Thiện Diệu Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Minhkhang2110 Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Nguyên Cát Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Trương Quang Quý Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Trần thị Tố Hương Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn John Pham Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Hidivi Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Nguyễn Văn Binh Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Quảng Huy Nguyên Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Pascal Bui Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn vokhulai Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Chanhniem Forever Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn haimanuel Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Trì Pháp Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Ngọc Châu Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Donna Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn cuongpt58 Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn tuấn phương Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn van chương Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Tuệ Quang Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn FULLBRIGHTDANG Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Khang Minh Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Phạm Bửu Hà Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Thái Tường Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Trần Thị Huyền Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Viên Hiếu Thành Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn quỳnh Tiên Rộng Mở Tâm Hồn Nguyên Ngọc ... ...

Việt Nam (999 lượt xem) - Trung Hoa (50 lượt xem) - Senegal (35 lượt xem) - Hoa Kỳ (11 lượt xem) - Saudi Arabia (3 lượt xem) - ... ...